By Guestblogger: BB. Bali Wag
The following is the quintessential list of to dos and don’tsbefore you tie the knot. Ito na yun. This is based on real life experience and are universal truths:
1. Huwag kang tanga
Marriage will not make you or your partner smarter. It does not guarantee extra IQ points for you or your partner. Kaya wag mong asahan na sa katagalan eh makukuha din ng bf mo na ang “insert”ay sobrang iba sa “tuck in”!At ang “twenty” ay hindi “twaynty”.
2. Thus, huwag mag bulagbulagan
Kung nakita mo na na ang boyfriend mo ay tamad, do not over analyze and rationalize that he is carefree or free-spirited. Hindi nakakabusog ang carefree.
Ang carefree ay panty liner at hindi ito isang quality na hinahanap mo sa isang life partner.
Kung nakita mo na ang BF mo ay babaero, dahlin’ marriage will only make that worse or should I say better? Remember that the forbidden fruit is the sweetest so pagkasal na, mas “matamis” na ang magkaroon ng kabit. Boom!
3. Do not act as though you are financially married
If you are not yet married and you are still boyfriend and girlfriend, accept that that is what you are to each other, not husband and wife. Engagement or marriage will not guarantee payment. Promise. In short, wag kayong papayag na mag swipe sila sa credit card mo! Dai, remember utang mo yan at ang sapatos na gusto niyang bilhin gamit ang credit card mo ay di mo masusuot at laspag na pagnagkataong break na kayo! Award!
4. Maghanap ng taong kaya mong kaharap sa pagkagising
Before love came into the picture, attraction came into play first and for good reason. The body will grow big or small, but the face will almost always stay the same. The face is important because it is the first thing you see when you wake up, not the biceps, ass or feet. Maliban na lang kung kakaiba ang trip mo. But, for most people, I think, kailangan talaga medjo drawn ka naman sa itchura dahil yang itchurang yan ang haharapin mo habang buhay.
5. Wag kang masyadong magpapadala sa sweet nothings
There is a reason why they call them “sweet nothings” dahil nothing nga cya davah?!
Gets? So try and get to know the character of the person first then deliberate whether you can live with that.
6. Consult your family
I know that ultimately, the decision to marry is yours alone to make but, believe me, what you family has to say will matter.
Ang “you-and-me-against-the-world” panahon pa yan ni Aga and Janice.
Anong nangyari? Wala! Si Egi Boy lang and nangyari!
Nagunaw ba ang mundo? Hindi.
And we now know that God was not with them when they did it. Your family’s perception of your boyfriend or girlfriend will give you a more realistic, if not, circumspect point of view about your partner. Wag naman baliwalain ang pamilya. Di ko sinasabing maging sunod-sunoran ka, pero friend wag naman tayong magpakabingi. Your family means well.
7. Make a list of the qualities you would want your husband to have.
If your boyfriend boyfriend has 5 out of 10, then you have 50-50 chance for success; if he has 8, then go ahead, by all means; if he has less than 5, wasakan na!
And if he has 10 out of 10, you are blind!
Go back to number 1 and 6 of this list. Walang ganung lalaki! Imagination mo lang yan ti! Tulog ka muna, tanggal yan!
8. Have money saved for yourself.
Remember when we were told to save money for the rainy days? Well, eto na yun. Ang marriage, parang panahon lang yan minsan maaraw minsan na man may inter tropical convergence zone, ano man yun, and minsan bagyo kaya better to have that “emergency” fund.
9. Make sure you are in love and you love your partner.
Magkaiba yan. The first is temporary pero aminin na natin that that should be what pushes you to marry someone. The latter will ensure your marriage’s longevity.
Pray for enlightenment and guidance dahil kahit gaano ka pa tumambling para sa pagibig, if the decision to love does not come from an enlightened mind olats pa din.
At paano ko na man nalaman na ito na nga ang quintessential list? Easy. I did not have this list then. Neither did I know of these things. Thus, tumambling man ako hindi ako jumakpot! But the game ain’t over yet, and the next play is bound to be better because now I know these rules work for sure!