I moved out of my parents’ house at the ripe old age of 28 years old and settled in Makati. I have been living in Makati for about 8 years now. Some of those years I was totally alone, and on my own, other years I was living with an SO.
For today’s topic, I shall share the many virtues of living and being alone:
Ilang beses ko pa yan susuotin bago labhan dahil (1) tamad ako maglaba, (2) naubusan ako ng detergent, and/or (3) nagtitipid ako at wala akong pampa-laundry sa shop. Hindi naman ako masyado pinawisan, amoy mabango pa and hindi naman masyado kusot.
2. You learn to self-sooth.
Pag nagkasakit ka, wala si nanay para magluto ng sopas for you. If you want soup, you get your sick ass up and turn on the stove and put something on. Or you get delivery. Either way, kailangan pa din tumayo ka kahit feeling mo nasa bingit ka na ng kamatayan.
3. You have whole conversations with your plant or your pet or both.
Ang maganda dito, walang mag-judge sayo kapag kinakausap mo sila. Ang masaklap, walang tao sa palagid para mang judge sayo. I also have little dance parties with my dog, when we’re feeling groovy.
5. Puro selfie lang ang photos mo in your place.
Wala kang masyadong action photos na ma-post kasi wala ka naman photographer. Hindi ko kaya i-train aso ko mag take ng photo. I may have to invest on a tripod with a remote.
Kaya madalas puro feetfie nalang 😛
5. Minsan maiisip mo kung may nangyari sayo, ilang araw kaya bago matagpuan nila yun bangkay mo? Usually naiisip ko ito pag naliligo ako. 😛
6. You can eat whatever you want, and how much you want and nobody will tell you it’s disgusting. Eh sa gusto mong lagyan ng suka or ketchup yun mashed potato eh! Walang mangingialam kung kainin mo lang lahat ng chicken skin.
7. Walang mag-judge ng song choices mo as your background music.
Concert ni Celine Dion (as performed by you with a hairbrush)
I like Barry Manilow. Bite me.
No one will look at you with disdain as you dance and sing along to Justin… Beiber.
8. You learn to fix things by yourself or at least learn to call the plumber. I’ve learned to fix my toilet and do some minor carpentry work. I’ve also successfully picked locks. I am the greatest.
9. There is no curfew. You can come home as early or as late as you want. Walang maiistorbo, walang magtatampo, walang magpapagalit… Why? Because you’re awesome. (Cue music: “IT’S MY LIFE…IT’S NOW OR NEVER… I AIN’T GONNA LIVE FOREVER…”)
[Tita Moves na!]
10. Kung ano anong mga classes ang napapasukan ko. I went to Bikram (which I still do up to now), learned to dance flamenco, did a couple of aikido classes, boxing/muay thai classes. And kung hindi man classes talaga, I go on YouTube and listen to TedTalks at night or one of those instructional videos, like on how to use a malong a hundred different ways.
When you live alone for a while, you discover yourself little by little, which helps you edit your life. When you live alone, you inevitably downsize on a lot of things. You focus on the essentials… for yourself. I love people, but being concerned with other people’s baggage or clutter sometimes could cloud who you are. So I’ve discovered that living home alone isn’t the worst thing that could happen to you… except when there’s a flying ipis in your room.